Exploring Strange New Worlds

Self,
You don't have to be a "Trekkie" to know the opening monologue from the the TV show "Star Trek"

Space - the Final Frontier. These are the voyages of the starship Enterprise. It's mission: to explore strange new worlds, to seek out new life and new civilizations, to boldly go where no man has gone before.

Well oddly enough I feel like I'm Captain of the Enterprise right now when it comes to dating. While I've been "galavanting" around the country a friend of mine has been house-sitting for me. (mainly to feed my fish.) Well there been some overlap in that he would stay at my place even when I was back in town. No we aren't dating or anything. But we have talked about my my lack of options. He showed me a website that he have been using to connect with people...and it was one I had not heard of or used in the past........so I was willing to try it.

So I have sort of stumbled back into the online dating pool. It seems almost as strange of a world as those that the Enterprise would visit. I have already wrote about one experience. (For those who don't know it you should read about Mr. Aint-right in "Dating Crazies" on 1/11/09.) Don't get me wrong, I aint new to this so I have expected some of the games folks play. The madness of it to me is that I feel partially insane for subjecting myself to it.......again. Like getting stood up Monday night. I got a message from him saying that he left both his cell phone and laptop at work. Even if that's so, how does that prevent someone from SHOWING UP when he recieved (and confirmed) the address and directions from me via email. I mean is there some new technology that cell phones and laptops drive automobiles instead of people that I haven't heard about. We won't even go into my annoyance/frustration with the fact that even on the next day, he didn't pick up the phone to call (or even text) that he sorry for missing our date but sent me an email. He said he did that because his cell battery was dead. (No he hasn't explain how those missing items prevented his vehicle from functioning and him showing up.)

Then there's the brother on the DownLow I met. Well frankly I didn't know he was "DL" until after we met face to face and it came up in conversation, because if I did know, I might not have entertained the idea of meeting, - them boiz are drama. Case in point. After we met and talked for a few minutes, the topic of cooking came up and he gave me a business card for a catering company he has/runs as I was leaving. Later that evening, I look at the business card...and there's a different name on it than the one he told me. I ask him about the discrepancy - his response; "Don't trip...just feel good that I thought you were cool enough to give my info to....feel me." Lord have mercy, why he say that! I told him the problem there is that it makes the first impression of him as a liar, and then I'm suppose to feel honored to get something as simple as the truth. Am I wrong, or does that seem completely asinine to anyone else? By all means if it makes sense to you, please explain it to me. His justification was that 1 if I knew he was DL (which as I said, I didn't, but still) I shouldn't have expected his real name in the first place and 2 had I asked earlier about the name he would have easily told me it was a fake name. (Who in their right mind second guesses a person's name upon introduction.) Honesty about lying, ain't that's a new one.
You know "I ain't complainin', I'm just tired," y'all.
(With that I had to find this clip. It's so cathargic to me. The artist is N'Dambi.)

Don't get me wrong, I think I have come across a few really good guys too. Sadly I think my biggest issue with the "good Guys" is that they are a little young....21, 23 even 19.... 27 isn't that much younger! I kind of put it out there in the universe that I would like a "Starting Five" for 2009. It's not that I want to be a whore (if I did why limit myself to five, right?) And before you start to say it, no I'm not trying to be a pimp either. I just feel that 5 is a round enough number that allows me some options rather than "putting all my eggs in one basket" and looking silly when they all get cracked. In the past, I've tried to only date/get to know one person at a time...and well still end up single. SO I'm trying something different...

(this is that cutie, Brandon, from the Miami area that I featured a month ago doing "If I Were A Boy." Here is India Arie's "I'm Ready for Love."

With that said, I had another date last night. This was with a 23 year old. It went well, for a first date. Dinner at Cheesecake Factory, and we saw the Adam Sandler movie "Bedtime Stories." He's a nice guy. Unfortunately, he's a little more fem for my tastes. I'm not an asshole and told him to buzz off, and we have had some fun conversations so......

Well I'm done.

Sincerely,

Pharaoh