Self,
I recently came across this guy who for 1 day now we've been texting each other.
The converstations starts out with he wants to get to know me.
Ok - Fine. Meeting new people is never a bad thing.
In the course of the texting I learn he's from Penn, helping to raise his nephew for for his deceased brother.
His FIRST lover died 4 years ago and that he's ready to move on. I'm the first person since his lover's death and he hope "this works out."
WOW....talk about luggage! The sad part is I already think it CAN'T work out because I would simply be the rebound guy....a place filler for the man he has spent 4 years mourning. It almost sounded like he was expecting to fall into a relationship with me just because I said I'm open to getting to know him.
The conversation about me dating other folks haven't even come up...so my "starting five," NY Suitor and all that, will probably run him off.
However the thing that's intersting to me about this is the fact that I say I want honest people around me. And he was honest, he let me know where he was basically from the get go. But that added an unexpected pressure, that makes me wonder if he was too honest too soon? I sense that he may be a bit more fragile then he wants me or anyone to know (I know that's the case for most folks.)
My compassionate side tells me not to kick him to the curb, but rationally I don't think I want to go through the ordeal. What to do?
Sincerely,
Pharaoh
3 comments:
well speaking from my experience of befriending a man who lost his lover I say see where he is @ before you decide that you shouldn't take him on...in my case I knew that I couldn't because my guy told me that if his lover weren't dead he would go to be with him...to this day is still a bit bitter @ the fact that I am with someone else but I want a future, I don't want to live in someone else's past...
All I'll say is every situation is different. If you think he's interesting enough to want to get to know him then you talking to him about your concerns should not be a difficult conversation to have. You sais you want honest people around you so you gotta be honest too. Maybe it won't turn into a relationship but he could be a good honest new friend.
Thanks fellas,
I will keep both of your comments in mind as I proceed.
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