So the other day I was talking to Duke Darktomahawk (Double D)and the topic of some of my past relationship and how currently there are a few people who I see not as dating potentials but as "my brothers." LOL Some that a good thing to see as brothers...rather anyone else believes it or not.
But Double D asked;
"What will it take for someone to get beyond that "brother" stage?"
Well like I told him....I don't really know. It got me to thinking and I guess the point he was trying to make is that maybe I'm too guarded....some may say I'm being too picky....maybe even shallow.
So the question is how do you open the citadel without being ransacked? I ask because almost like clock work as I predicted, as soon as I moved back into my parents' house, a couple guys have made there presence known to me. Now I'm not sure if they are looking for just sex or something else. I know that if I decide all I want is sex then that's all it will be. But if they want more and all I do is keep them at arms length and just put them in the trick bag....how can it go anywhere? I mean I guess it comes down to the question of how do you get over or move pass the fear of being hurt/used/abused/mistreated by someone to give them and yourself the chance to love each other? (This is a question for all, not just me.)
Sincerely,
Pharaoh
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You just have to take the risk, that's what life's about
You just have to take the risk, that's what life's about
LOL so profound you had to say it twice?
Excellent question, your highness! I agree with Wonder Man; there's always a risk involved in letting someone in. I think that risk can be tempered by wisdom, time investment and good advice, but I don't think it can ever be fully eliminated. At some point, you'll have to open the gates of the citadel and allow that person in.
* time invested; I really meant to say one will have to open the gates of the.....person in. not you'll.
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